Breaking up refers as well to divorcing and the dissolvement of a cohabitation contract.
Letting go during a period of breaking up could be described as a reversed period of falling in love. The intensity, the broad spectrum of emotions and mostly the tangle of thoughts all together, can make that parties are experiencing a sense of being overwhelmed by their own story. This does not only complicate matters in terms of being able to have a moment for the emotions of the other one, but it is also complicating matters in terms of reaching agreements on how to proceed. Answers to questions such as:
are on their own hard enough to agree upon. This is exactly why during a turbulent time as breaking up is, a mediator with relevant knowledge is one of those points that can provide peace and space. Furthermore, having a mediator ensures to go through the process in good way by taking it one step at a time. Below, the breaking up mediation guidebook from AVANT Mediation, presented in 6 steps, is to be found.
The biggest advantage of mediation is that all the aspects of breaking up are going to be discussed at a pace that suits both parties. The process will be facilitated by a professional: the mediator, who has up-to-date knowledge on handling the legal and fiscal aspects of a break up. This provides solid ground and peace during this turbulent time. Furthermore, it provides a moment to notice what happens emotionally and how to create the best arrangement of parental access, and the best joined upbringing, in case there are young children involved. In comparison with taking it up to court, this is a big contrast. There, the judge will rule how everything after the breaking up will look like for both of the parties. The self-determination of the parties is quite reduced in such a process.